oral: Mo-ran

. I was born in big cities, family conditions is true that there are two sets of the house, from a young age who did not suffer any. After graduating from college, I was assigned to work in a museum, it is Qingxian, reaching out to people less. To my colleagues and I introduced a boyfriend a year later, he and I get a permit, he became my first husband, I did not expect the nightmare began.

.. sleep, he grabbed my neck

. At that time, he was a well-known Beijing University to do post-doctoral. 29-year-old me, resigned to work in Beijing went to her husband.

. month when he was only 1,000 yuan subsidy, can not support themselves. I went to Beijing to find a job quickly, but in the highly competitive Beijing's easier said than done. Finally, I look for a monthly salary of 1,500 yuan, although not many, but two people are together barely enough day-to-day expenses.

. post-doctoral stations to provide dormitories, a small two-bedroom, a put a big bed and the other put a small bed. Under normal circumstances, to join us in bed to sleep, but her husband often in the evening to work on the ground, sleeping alone in a small bed. I know that they are not accustomed to human life, love stay up all night, sometimes not necessarily have to work and watching TV can look at night. I go to work every day on time, a person has to sleep very good.

. Wenzhibinbin looked at the appearance of her husband, learned to live with his temper is not good. He always picked me wrong, and I for some trivial quarrel. I would like to start may not work landed, he will not ring true feelings, let him have been. Unexpectedly, he was later to the development and I do.

. the middle of the night time I still asleep, he suddenly grabbed my neck and I struggled hard before he let go, then I began to think he has psychological problems. However, for the first time in the event this matter, there is no family around, I do not know how to do that. He subsequently did well and the performance of guilt, but to continue to lead the days go on.

        at the time of divorce are hard to come by easily

. belonging to the husband's professional category on the basis of physical, very boring, if only to remain in Beijing to research, so he had the goal is to leave the country.

. post-doctoral graduates, failed to keep her husband's work, not to mention the dormitory, I asked a friend or in rented houses outside the Fourth Ring West. At that time, my salary has risen to 2,000 yuan, he has no income, living completely on my salary and not much of the past to maintain the savings. Until six months after he went to France, for the time being as a laboratory of the University of work and preparation diverted to Germany.

. him I would go back to the house and moved to Daxing and parents living together. At that time my parents have retired to the home of a house sold in the Daxing loan to buy a two-bedroom.

. once again our separation I have time, consider the space between us, I think that we really do not have any to speak of the future, our future is not the same line. Before leaving, we have not had any discussions in the future, he avoided mentioning, I talk about. He put aside their indifferent personality, I do not know me in this process goes wrong, perhaps because he never loved me!

. he went to France in four months later I passed to him by divorce lawyers. He was surprised, I did not think could be so outrightly ruled out the possibility, but he soon signed.

. after the signing of that moment, I lost some, but it was hard to come by easily. We later learned from a common friend know that her ex-husband and I feel that I am sorry I said that, if given the opportunity I would like to compensation. At the time of divorce, I have a 32-year-old, he can compensate me back to the 22-year-old right?

          post-divorce love for the first time Huitoutulian

. despite the divorce, I obviously did not feel the crisis. Just think of the first marriage failed for the second time in any case have to find a suitable.

. first friends, colleagues gave me, but everyone's so many resources, and later through other channels, I contacted some people, such as the Internet, matchmaking by, and so on, the old Korean matchmaking through what I know.

. old Han is not tall, I almost, but my head is high in the women's heap. South Korea than my old 10-year-old, looking down, saw a few good feeling, to continue contacts.

. old Han also have a short history of marriage, he was cadres, and later the resignation of the sea to do their own a small business. Enterprises can also benefit, but did not buy the old cars Korea, usually only a van, not only means of transport and delivery. He did not buy a house and live with their parents.

. we have seen both parents, but it is a walk-off field. San Sishi we are all old people, parents are not so important.

. the beginning of that period of time, we have to meet every weekend. Han old take one's time, also took me to drive to the suburbs to play. For the first time to play out, I said to self: "This is the first time in my life with boyfriend went to the countryside." At that time, I feel a bit like I am looking forward to the kind of romantic life, with ex-husband because I have never had outing together.

. Gradually, the old Korean saying that they began to busy with work, the number of meetings we have less. Then only telephone contact Finally, I called him he did not then, do not send text messages back. I feel bewildered, all-year-old San Sishi of the people, feel that if the two people directly on the inappropriate, totally no need to do. This is a divorce after I made Huitoutulian first love, time-consuming year.

. borrow money if he is a liar set

. turn a lap, I returned to the starting point and the beginning of each non-stop, in all kinds of semi-old man in the "Gold Rush" and also all kinds of semi-old man Amoy.

      first time I met twice with a man eating together. The man said to buy something, do not bring enough money, I would like to take the money 500. I think 500 is not a large sum of money, happy to lend him. Since then, this person will no longer linked, forever gone. Of course, I encountered were not entirely so. Although some people ultimately did not become friends, men and women, has become a common friend, some people have to help me.

. last summer, pull strings through marriage, I met Wang Qiang, the initial feeling is a little Brief Encounter. Wang Qiang, said it is inter-generational northeast, the same age with my parents years ago from the Yunnan border to the northeast, where settlers, Wang Qiang was born and raised in Yunnan. Because it seems that there is a fellow of the reason that we are indeed able to talk to.

. Wang Qiang, according to its own said that he and the students have been working together as a university Auto business in the city there are certain auto-maker. Wang Qiang has seen him take me to the sale, he met with the students. He said that the business is not good, but so-so, would like to buy a house recently, I find time to see him. I think he does not do what big business, can make a living. Also open to others, it is not difficult to get along, I gradually felt more favorable impression of him.

. recognize more than four months of the day, Wang Qiang said to me a little Zhouzhuanbukai business, I want to 30,000 by money. I would Xiangyemoxiang euphemistically rejected him, because I found: If you borrow money, he is a liar. Sure enough, shortly after Wang Qiang, also disappeared.

. divorce 6 years have not married off

. I contact the Pharaohs, a year ago from the marriage, but also with a teenage daughter. Waimenxiedao others do not, that is, some Koumen. We have talked about marriage, said that if I get married, do not buy another, but must be replaced with new furniture. He said: "you have to change to buy!"

. I know that he is not high wages, Yang Zhao car, but also to save her daughter. From the heart, and I understand him, but I always think of a word: a man willing to spend money you do not necessarily love you; men do not want to give you money, we do not love you.

. now, I have been divorced six years are still not able to marry their own. Depressing experience I have the romantic idea of a little water out, also I have been optimistic to the opposite side. I would not go into those illusions of love and not love the thing, what kind of future can only look at the good fortune.

(Editor : JIANG Hui)