divorce proceedings more simple, so that is becoming increasingly easy to break. As a result, some have not yet come to the husband and wife failed, hasty impulse is only a determination on the ground floor, think back to when they have been found to be undone. Is there a way to let in around the edge of divorce for couples who divorce "dress rehearsal" after the experience of the decision?

. 1 No. actress:

. COROL site director of 32-year-old divorce trial 3 months

. almost a year ago, I had for a new job, new work and I used to work compared to a lot of difference, so I basically soak in the day, and that is the case, I still feel their work Completion is not ideal. I have had a very strong psychological doubt, feel that they are not old and no longer be able to adapt to new jobs and the environment. Thinking that the psychological disturbance of my life, although not satisfied with looking at the past but also to take care of her husband and suddenly become Mianmukezeng, I think he just can not understand me, I can not help but also look at all like a joke to see I am tired of struggling with. So, every day I go home, they could not find fault with her husband, he is also beginning to let me, then I see more and more unreasonable, but also impatient. Our life has become a typical small quarrel every day, the big 369. Finally one day, my husband and at the same time said that "two people with so incompatible, it is better that we divorce!" Finish this sentence, my husband and I both Zhengzhu, when we can come together, but also to break through the two sides The resistance of the family, we have the eyes of an outsider in love there is a plus, and even now so easy to put on a divorce. How to do that? To continue to lead this conflict can no longer escape, and divorce hearts have to give up, we discuss the night, decided to separate for some time.

. I moved to the company's quarters, we have agreed meet every two weeks, usually do not call all right, to the two people calm and reflection.

. the first few days, I am fully free, you can not say hello to him to see his face and the best companies in the overtime, they want to do. As time goes by slowly, I was doing my job more easily, in a calm state of mind has a lot more time, I began to rethink our relationship, but also thought of themselves in front of her husband said something, sometimes I was too far, for example, I once said that by the time he was married to his cheating, I also said that he is very sorry, so very hurt his heart.

. separate life, I eat every day or call the company cafeteria or take-away, then all-you-can eat anything boring. For so many years of marriage, I will not cook, her husband has been doing for me to eat. A man, if not love, what is there to let him as day to 6 years for a woman to cook? It was then that I understand that until the husband has been how much I love and I also do not leave him because of him, I can then collapse on the ground to do what we want to do, so moisture can live. Her husband's thoughts began to become stronger by the day, that day, when I were a good soak in the hostel's a box of instant noodles, I do not have a stop, but the thought of her husband in the kitchen for me to do breast Xiaochao cucumber, I side The trouble scene is the kind of warm my heart and desire the most value. That night, I did not observe the provisions in a telephone call to her husband. Hear his voice, I feel the warmth and long collapse is, I burst into tears.

. my husband and I separated in the 3 months after they finally met, he looked haggard many, we hugged tightly, as had found the treasure found again. He said, we go home now, than before so that we understand each other more.

. love and need it enough to become husband and I Xiangshou life reasons, this is my biggest test during the divorce experience. I am very happy that the first cracks in the feelings, we can keep the final reason, there is no hurry to separate self-willed. Otherwise, it would be the biggest mistake life.

. 2 No. Actress:

. bamboo image consultant, 30-year-old divorce trial for 6 months now divorced

. I have a chance of the opportunity to interview, met her husband. His superior family, a good education, decent work and a very bright future. Such a good man is very destructive, not to mention I was only the first in a home outside Beijing, for the daily running of the livelihood of small reporters. As a result, I will marry soon recognize him.

. the first wedding we had for some sweet day. But soon, I slowly discovered that we live in the serious lack of co-ordination, I often work out an interview, every time I go to an interview he would ask the other side's bottom line, if the other side happened to be young single men, he would I will try to obstruct the interview, such as malingering, or all of a sudden, said his mother, we have to look at. At that time, I think, after all, married, the family should be more important than work, so I had to change their work, by doing so the interview into a post-production. For the family to give up his favorite work, I think that my husband can understand the good, then things I am very disappointed that her husband's male chauvinism is very serious, such as his that I have to work every day to do a good job on the home meal Waiting for him, if he has business, no matter how late I was waiting for him to come back to him after supper, accompanied him to sleep after eating together again, otherwise he would not think I Xian-hui. These things together, we have more and more dissatisfied with each other, I think he does not respect me, and I think he is too clever not to go. I finally realized that we do not need the other person.

. my husband that if we all had a rough unhappy that the marriage of Boatbuilding and what is the use, it is better to separate it! To save face, he will not retain me, so we made the decision for the time being separated.

. I rented a room, no one around me always a condescending attitude of the general command to me, no one more day I do not like to put some of the so-called elegant music to torture me, as if all of a sudden rejection Lost years of dust, I became sane and happy together. I too enjoy such a state, and I do so again back to his work Reporters favorite. While sitting out to be a bus or subway, her husband's car did not drive can not do it to Gesanchaiwu beauty eat Western food, but I am very happy, I feel at ease to make a living in Beijing, the foreign woman, I do not have a treasure I do not know how to appreciate The men come at the expense of their own personality and preferences.

. When I was a spectator standing on the location of their point of view, I think that the former is more or less because I love vanity hastily married her husband's lack of understanding. I now come of age, should know what they need, six months after the separation, I would like to put forward a formal divorce her husband, then he's lost pride, he said that I am sorry, maybe I was wrong. I said there are no right or wrong, but not to us, I am not your angel, I would rather be a happy Cinderella.

. after the divorce, I concentrate on doing their work recently to get to know a like-minded boyfriend. Her ex-husband has found a gentle love of virtue. We did not leave before the marriage is regrettable that the test of time of divorce, let us re-understanding of their own marriage and, in the absence of that experience, I still do not have the courage and confidence out of the original life.

. 3 No. Actress:

. Lin Xiao culture's 36-year-old owner of a divorce trial for 2 years now divorced

. we divorce because he had an affair. Marriage exists in the six years he kept having an affair, an affair is also a possible addiction. He is very talented, sensitive and warm, I love him very much, because of love, I forgive him repeatedly to take him, and he has long been used to love each injury and return to the marriage with my love To heal wounds. Every time he briefly returned to me, I look forward to for the last time, and since then he can return to peace of mind. I know he loves me, but because of his growing family environment, he created a lot of people need a lot of love to his men, is the only way he was satisfied with the security and he used this method to support its own. We have a 2-year separation, when the "trial divorce" the new words he put forward. He said that he was suffering because of this non-stop love him very tired but can not but carry on, he needs a person can think twice. I agree, and he moved out, sometimes for a long time and do not contact me, I sometimes call in and talk for hours, 2 years, I have heard some rumors that he, Wu Waihu with which women and what disputes . He is not no love, put on the Red Shoes, as the dancers can not stop. I thought to give him time to mature, he will always, I have been waiting for 2 years, I have to do anything, because the company failed to take care of my business has plummeted.

. later, he went home, the return of the longest, but a year later he "relapse", and dating a woman. He told me once again put forward a "trial divorce", I refused to directly apply for a divorce, this is a responsibility and do not know how the man could not afford to live, to retain his tears, I could not move. I think I silly for a man can not settle down to waste so much of his time. I knew our marriage problems is fatal, but it refuses to face up to, and this problem even if we try to divorce the number of times how long are not separated. 2 years of separation I have a lot of old company close to collapse, seems to look back I think it is naive and not worth it. When a person is their hope and happiness all at the mercy of others, she is doomed to failure and loss. There is the issue of treatment of the deadly marriage, there must be continued after the break when the chaos.

. 4 No. Actress:

. bright 33-year-old advertising creative Divorce trial 9 months now divorced

. and his acquaintance before, we are very small circle of life, introduced after the understanding of each other on the other side was satisfied with the conditions, and no side is more suitable candidates, together. The married life is smooth, I can not say there is found to be unsatisfactory, but the strange thing is that every time after the marriage drama, the love plot on the street going to see a close lover, I think it will not stand. It should be jealous, because I think I did not. Although he is a good man, good to me, but I can not heart, I looked at him, just to see my brother or father, I could not imagine having sex with the man, to have children. 4th year of marriage, feeling more and more strong, he is easy to meet people, I want to tell his children live, had the most ordinary family life, but in that case, I have repeatedly He refused, he was very disappointed.

. He told me that "trial divorce" very ridiculous, he said that with every day are not solve the problem, it can not separate the face to solve. He believes that this is not a positive way, we should be back to consulting experts, psychologists or marriage, I refused to willfulness, he Yuefubule I reluctantly agreed to a divorce trial, and the relocation of their own. Resumption of a person's life, day or a day on the surface step by step, but I feel great confusion because of uncertainty about the future, making everything to do not mind gas. I live in the house we had always received a call from family friend Telephone inquiries, the room full of flavor and his common signs of life, he always give me a call, I am told I am concerned, these are I feel that he was not at home for the time being, over the past few days will not come back, life will resume as it is, so I can not to take an objective view like this, we finally divorced.

. divorce is a lose-lose thing, we could not live up to six months in the face of this fact, because the pain does not have been separated and reduce the ease. Six months later, I am emotions gradually restored, and then I had a few exchanges between the men, but due to various reasons, and a separate, I often think of her ex-husband's life and we feel there are a lot of memory and nostalgia can be said to be in Completely separate from the real life of its own in the face and then later after many then, and I understand his feelings of the kind of steady and is the most suitable for me. "Do not know how to love a young man," I think this sentence is right. After a painful divorce after the period we have resumed contact, and sometimes eat together to chat, I am emotions of our lives are a mature understanding of the many, know how to compromise, tolerance and treasure, although do not know whether or not to go after Together, but we do not regret the divorce.

. for later: test the benefits of divorce is that the two sides can not be the case in the impulse to regret the decision, in the face of reality, the objective of the two will take the initiative to re-examine themselves and appreciate each other's strengths, their own lack of review, the final choice Is rational. If the divorce trial process, and I find that their marriage has no love, clones, no good, and the situation can not be improved, then the divorce trial is to own a buffer period, when you bid farewell to this marriage, you will also have their own A peaceful state of mind, to give up in a timely manner, to a re-select their own.

(Editor: Tan Jing-yu)