the implementation of China's one-child family planning policy has been nearly 30 years. The first only-child has entered the right age to get married, they are composed of family, known as "dual-family independence."

. Experts predict that over the next 10 years, including one child and one child, the child and non-only-child families will reach 10,000,000, and will gradually become the mainstream of society.

. each of their parents are only children accompanied by parents, "New Year" on them, than a non-only-child family is more important. However, the "New Year" or choose to return her back to her parents? Accompanied his wife accompanied their parents or parents? This issue so that only-child couples who have committed difficult.

. Xiao Liangkou a quarrel on holiday

. these Days, in Nanchang, a public institution to go to work again and again Xiaoyu's lament. It turned out that he had just two years of marriage, his wife in Ganzhou, Ji'an in his house, are two of only-child, for whose return to the Chinese New Year Spring Festival this year, so odds. Colleagues joked: "Now there are many days away from the Spring Festival, ah on trouble for this? It seems you try hard to find fault ah." Xiao Yu has exclaimed: "This is two years into a holiday vacation to return to who we are Lai Chao family quarrel, this time not to make it clear that we all have a holiday when Zaichao Bengxiang a happy New Year. "

. In fact, according to Reporters investigation, as the Spring Festival approaching, and Xiao Yu had the same trouble really a lot of young people. January 26, 27, a network reporter BBS forum and vote in the August 1 Nanchang Road, Nanjing West Road, and other random street survey, the number of young married New Year family home to investigate the issue. The results showed that more than half of the young husband and wife are facing, "Who back to the New Year" problem, while more than 70 per cent of the husband and wife that "if the problems were not dealt with will affect the feelings of the husband and wife." In addition, most of the female respondents tend to Back home, and most of the men were of the view that "based on traditional Chinese customs, Chinese New Year should be the man to stay home."

. "This is really a big problem ah! I also worry about the matter." January 26, Nanchang, the public face of the reporter's interview with Ms Aw was great grievances. According to her, she has two parents did not return to their homes in Hubei Province of the Chinese New Year. The previous year due to pregnancy, because just last year, gave birth to a child. "This year with how I want to go home to see parents, but her husband is a native of Nanchang, back to my home on New Year enthusiasm that did not, we have a quarrel on the matter said."

. my friends eyes of tourists were 942 reporters at the network behind the message thread: read your article, our generation can not think of marriage but also for such a thing to worry about, yes ah, who do not want to do at home? Parents who do not I hope to reunite with their children, especially those working outside ... ...

. According to the survey, in recent years, with the mobility of the population to strengthen, the proportion of ex marriage is increasing year by year. In order for a week-long Spring Festival about her husband's family to do both, for the vast majority of couples, it is virtually impossible. It can be said, "Who back to the New Year" has indeed increased as a universal problem.

.. Tips teach you have a reunion in

. 1 No. Family: husband back home in accordance with the customs

. Fengcheng is Li Hong, now a university to get to know her husband Zhou, Zhou and Shaanxi, two are now working in Nanchang. Despite the close from home, Li Hong and her husband at home, the tradition has always insisted her back to the New Year.

. "Last year we were married, Zhou family Parents are more traditional thinking, we must adhere to the back of Shaanxi. At that time, my mother is the nearest we have to hope that the Fengcheng, but I think my father 'is not no rules around', we have to establish a 'situation' awareness so that family ties in a spirit of harmony In the heat. Indeed, back to Shaanxi, I see a mother-in-law Zhou also on the pro-and hold, I also appreciate the special. "

. reporters, according to a random survey, nearly 40% of the respondents believe that the Chinese nation's traditional Spring Festival holiday, according to the customs laws is the daughter-in-law, should be back to her New Year.

. 2 No. Family: The rotation is not partial to home

. Liaoxiao Yu Wei and Cheng are Xinyu and Fuzhou, two in Shenzhen have been working for six years. "We started off with the Spring Festival is her husband's family on both sides of the balance, but, in particular pressure on the Spring Festival transport season, we are often hard to buy tickets back to Jiangxi Province, who have to make the weak force in Xinyu between Fuzhou and running, it Too much, parents also looked distressed. In the past two years, we have agreed to two rounds of last year off to get married in danger, back to my house this year, the New Year. "Pleased to Liao Xiaoyu told reporters.

. In the interview, the reporter learned that with the development of society, modern traditional The more and more to keep weakening, back to her husband's family for Chinese New Year a bit unreasonable. So, now the majority of young couples with the times, the choice of two "anybody on a rotational basis" to be reunited. In this reporter's random survey, nearly 40 percent in favor of the compromise.

. 3 No. family: two old people come together

. 1 day 27 on Sunday, Nanchang Vanke Sijihuacheng shopping bus to Metro opened in the near future. Owners Lee and his wife are busy purchasing New Year. Lee Yuehe He told reporters: "The Spring Festival this year, we said that the two good old received all of Nanchang to the Chinese New Year, much to prepare something." According to Lee, before he and his wife often go home for New Year's troubles matter , In 2007, he determined to Sanfangliangting for a garden room Ocean, "the big house, a live, two elderly Chinese New Year together, the peace of mind, but also exciting."

. like Mr. Li have been reunited in this way, can do "to the satisfaction of all." However, correspondents in the survey, the majority said that "housing, limited financial resources, the inconvenience to parents to go out," only 10% said they would refer to the Executive.

. In addition, on "ways" to the various programs of the New Year, most of them hard to accept that. Among the more than 50, only a lady now that communications, network development, both parents are more open, Chinese New Year and her husband "free" operation.

. parents wish: a family happiness of the most important

. married to the child which the Chinese New Year, the problem appears to be some contradictions, but as long as usual to deal with it, it will naturally resolve the conflict. During the interview, compared with the one-child, many parents of sons and daughters back to the issue of the New Year which on the contrary appears to be tolerant.

. Castle Lake City district of the retired cadres Mr. Gong said that the children have children of our problems, the Chinese New Year at home to parents or parents back home that he hoped to discuss a good son and daughter-in-law, which, if reluctantly returned, only much, we just do not happy . As a result, parents have to adopt the attitude of tolerance, understanding fully the children, do not care too much.

. 55-year-old retired worker, Lee said: "I intend this year, his wife and two New Year, had just married off her daughter, she can not give too much pressure, we were happy to have it easy. In fact, you, as long as the usual daughter-in-law really cares about us, we Met on. "

. Experts: Parents should not honor those arrested in the form of

. Jiangxi University of Finance and Economics College of Communication Arts and Professor Zhang Qingsheng has been committed to the study of folklore. Back on the modern Chinese New Year which family problems, Zhang Qingsheng of the view that the man in the family New Year Spring Festival, which is thousands of years as a result of male-dominated society and strengthen the transmission of a private practice, it is not easy to change. However, in social progress and people's concepts have been updated, and now the man or woman in the home appears to be the Chinese New Year is not important. Some think the woman in the New Year will bring home the woman ominous, in fact, in the past to strengthen the right of men and fabricated. In fact, the woman to the Chinese New Year, is respect for women, not necessarily "bronchitis."

. "practices can be flexible, and the key is the concept of advancing with the times. We have to practice a healthy, humane, rich and the old Emperors may as well check the calendar, after all, there are only details the history and rhythm; to consider the new situation, Change can be a new experience, only life. As a result, no need conventionalist New Year, Happy is the last word! "Said Zhang Qingsheng.

. whether the man home to the woman home to the Chinese New Year or Spring Festival, with a total unavoidable trade-off. How, then, should not appease the Chinese New Year together with their children and the elderly of this psychological? In response, East China Jiaotong University Counseling Center, Schumann, director of the teachers said that the following aspects need to be taken into account. First of all, people must learn how to self-regulate, adjust the mood is essentially its own. Sons and daughters of the elderly is about, very much like to accompany their children. Such feelings are understandable. However, a small number of children, the elderly can not understand the difficulties that children of their own New Year is not accompanied by their parents, the idea of such a fact is wrong. The elderly should be expanded their circle, circle communication, to find their own emotional support, with a feeling of happiness and a sense of worthiness, but the sub-dependent children; as children, should care more for ordinary parents, so that the elderly will not For the Spring Festival holiday, and other sensitive and special care to reduce the gap between the old heart and a sense of balance; Finally, it is worth reminding that no matter which choice in the New Year, in advance and should be home for the elderly to communicate, communicate only in place in order to obtain the understanding of the elderly, To allow the elderly to their minds at ease over the Spring Festival.

. (internship Editor: Agnes Qin)